Reading List
Reading List — by topic
The following books, videos, workbooks, etc. are organized by topic and may act as helpful resources. Green font indicates works that have been read by Center for Work and Family Life staff. The Center does not specifically recommend or endorse any particular literature, nor does the absence of books from this list represent a recommendation against such works. The Center for Work and Family Life would like to thank and give credit to the Stanford University Faculty and Staff Help Center, which was instrumental in helping to assemble this reading list.
ADHD, ADD, and Learning Disabilities
Barkley, R.A. (2000). Taking Charge of ADHD: The complete authoritative guide for parents. New York: Guilford.
Barkley, Russell, Ph.D. (1994) ADHD in the Classroom (video). (800-365-7006 to order)
Hallowell, Edward M., & J. Ratey (1994). Driven to Distraction. Recognizing and Coping
with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood. New York: Simon & Schuster.
Note: For adults with A.D.D. and A.D.H.D.
Hallowell, E.M. and Ratey, J. (1995). Answers to Distraction.
New York: Bantam Doubleday.
Hallowell, E.M. and Ratey, J. (2005). Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most Out of Life
with Attention Deficit Disorder.New York: Ballantine Books.
Nadeau, Kathleen (2002). Understanding Women with AD/HD. Silver Spring, MD: Advantage Books.
Parker, H. (1992). The ADD Hyperactivity Handbook for Schools. Plantation, FL: Impact Publications (800-233-9273)
Solden, Sari (1995). Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embracing Disorganization at Home and in the Workplace.
Underground Books.
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Web sites
provides an ADHD report, a bi-monthly newsletter,
and is dedicated to bringing well-written, solidly researched work to professionals, academics, and general readers (www.guilford.com).
A web site for tools and books, the is a leading resource for understanding all developmental disorders, including ADD.
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Adolescents
Bell, Ruth (1998). Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships. Times Books; 3rd Revision edition
Gordon, Sol (1981). The Teenage Survival Book. New York: Time Books.
Packer, Alex (1993). Bringing up Parents: The Teenager's Handbook. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing.
Riera, Michael (1997). Surviving High School. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts Press.
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Aging/caring for aging parents
Berman, Claire (1996). Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Help, How to Survive. New York: Henry Holt.
Larson, Dale G. (1993). The Helper's Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness.
Champaign, IL: Research Press.
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AIDS/ HIV
Grodeck, Brett (2003). The First Year—HIV: An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed.New York: Marlowe & Co.
Ward, Darrell E. (1999). The Amfar AIDS Handbook: The Complete Guide to Understanding HIV and AIDS.
New York: W.W. Norton & Co.
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Alcohol and drug issues
Alcoholics Anonymous “Big Book”: The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women have Recovered from Alcoholism
(1976). New York: AA World Series, Inc.
DiClemente, Carlo (2003). Addiction and Change: How Addictions Develop and Addicted People Recover.
New York: Guilford Press.
Johnson, Vernon (1980). I’ll Quit Tomorrow: A Practical Guide to Alcoholism Treatment.
New York: Harper & Row.
Milam, James Robert, & K. Ketcham (1981). Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism.
Seattle: Madrona Publishers.
Pinkham, Mary Ellen (1986). How to Stop the One You Love from Drinking. New York: GP Putnam & Sons.
Prochaska, James, J. Norcross, & C. DiClementi (1994). Changing for Good. New York: Avon Books.
Schaefer, Dick (1987).Choices and Consequences.
Minneapolis, MN: Johnson Institute.
Schierse, Leonard, & L. Schierse (1989). Witness to the Fire: Creativity and the Veil of Addiction. Boston:
Shambhala Publications.
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Web site
Alcohol and Drug Abuse
Beattie, Melody (1987). Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. San Francisco: Hazelden.
Black, Claudia (1981). It Will Never Happen to Me. Denver: M.A.C. Printing & Publishing.
Cermak, Timmen, & J. Rutzky (1994). A Time to Heal Workbook: Stepping-Stones to Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics.
New York: Putnam.
Mellody, Pia. Facing Codependence (1989). San Francisco: Harper & Row.
Sommers, Suzanne. Keeping Secrets (1988). New York: Warner Brothers.
Note: A first-person account about being an adult child of an alcoholic
Woititz, Janet Geringer. (1983). Adult Children of Alcoholics: Expanded Edition. Deerfield Beach, Fl: Health Communications, Inc.
Woititz, Janet Geringer (1985). Struggle for Intimacy. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications.
Anger
Lerner, Harriett (1985). The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships.
New York: HarperPerennial.
McKay, Matthew, P. Rogers, & J. McKay (1989). When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Paleg, Kim, & M. McKay (2001). When Anger Hurts Your Relationship. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
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Anxiety
Bourne, Edmund J. (1995). The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Bourne, Edmund, & L. Garano (2003). Coping with Anxiety: 10 Simple Ways to Relieve Anxiety, Fear, and Worry.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Hanh, Thich Nhat (2003).Creating True Peace: Ending Violence in Yourself, Your Family, Your Community, and the World.
New York: Simon & Schuster.
Isaacs, Mark (1978). Living with Fear: Understanding and Coping with Anxiety. New York: McGraw Hill.
Jeffers, Susan (1987). Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. San Diego, CA: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich.
Note: Has relevance to career issues.
Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1994). Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. New York: Hyperion.
Wilson, R. Reid (1986). Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. New York: Harper & Row.
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Bipolar disorder/manic depression
Jamison, Kay Redfield (1995).An Unquiet Mind. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.
Note: Autobiography of a psychologist diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder
Vien, Enid (1997).Mood Swings.La Mesa, CA: Dynamism Publications.
Copeland, Mary Ellen (1994). Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Child Abuse Prevention
Fontes, L.A. (2005). Child abuse and culture: working with diverse families. New York: The Guilford Press
Myers, J.E.B., Berliner, L., Briere, J., Hendrix, C.T., Jenny, C., & Reid, T. Eds, (2002). The APSAC handbook
on child maltreatment. 2nd Edition. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications
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Chronic pain
Catalano, Ellen John & K. N. Hardin (1997). The Chronic Pain Control Workbook. Oakland, CA: Harbinger.
Dillard, James N. (2002). The Chronic Pain Solution: Your Personal Path to Pain Relief.New York: Bantam Dell.
Johnson, Charlie, & D. Webster (2002). Recrafting a Life: Solutions for Chronic Pain and Illness. New York: Brunner-Rutledge.
Rosenfeld, Arthur (2003). The Truth About Chronic Pain: Patients and Professionals on How to Face It, Understand It, Overcome It.
New York: Basic Books.
Schneider, Jennifer P., M.D., Ph.D. (2004). Living With Chronic Pain: The Complete Health Guide to the Causes and Treatment of Chronic Pain. Long Island, New York: Healthy Living Books/ Haterleigh Press.
Thorn, Beverly E. (2003). Cognitive Therapy for Chronic Pain: A Step-by-Step Guide. New York: Guilford Press.
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Cognitive therapy
Burns, David. (1980). Feeling Good. New York: Morrow.
Burns, David (1989). The Feeling Good Handbook. N.Y.: Plume.
Note: A workbook based on Burns's Feeling Good book
Seligman, Martin (1991). Learned Optimism. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.
Seligman, Martin (1996). The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience.
New York: HarperCollins.
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Communication skills
Bolton, Robert (1986). People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts. New York: Simon & Schuster.
Faber, Adele, & E. Mazlish (1980). How to Talk So Kids Will listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon.
McKay, Matthew, M. Davis, & P. Fanning (1995). Messages: The Communication Book.Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Patterson, Kerry (2005). Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated Expectations, and Bad Behavior. New York: McGraw Hill.
Patterson, Kerry, J. Grenny, R. McMillan, & A. Switzler (2001). Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
New York: McGraw-Hill.
Rosenberg, Marshall, L. Leu, & A. Gandhi (2003). Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Create Your Life,
Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values. Encinitas, CA: Puddledancer Press.
Stone, Douglas, B. Patton, & S. Heen (2000). Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Penguin Books.
Tannen, Deborah (1995). Talking from 9 to 5: Women and Men in the Workplace; Language, Sex, and Power. New York: Avon.
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Death and dying
Kubler Ross, Elizabeth (1969). On Death and Dying. New York: MacMillan.
Kubler Ross, Elizabeth (1997). Questions and Answers on Death and Dying. New York: Touchstone Books.
Remen, Rachel Naomi (1997). Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal. New York: Riverhead Books.
Rinpoche, Sogyal (1993). The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco.
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Depression
Burns, David (1980). Feeling Good. New York: Morrow.
Note: A cognitive-behavioral approach to resolving depression
Burns, David (1989). The Feeling Good Handbook. New York: Plume.
Note: A workbook based on Burns's Feeling Good book.
Copeland, Mary Ellen (1992). The Depression Workbook: A Guide for Living with Depression. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Greenspan, Miriam (2003). Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair.
Boston: Shambhala Publications, Inc.
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Divorce/ending relationships/breaking up
Ahrons, Constance R (1994). The Good Divorce. New York: HarperCollins.
Amodeo, John (1994). Love and Betrayal: Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships. New York: Ballantine Books.
Colgrove, Melba, H. H. Bloomfield, & P. McWilliams (1993). How to Survive the Loss of a Love.Los Angeles: Prelude Press.
Fisher, Bruce (1981). ReBuilding: When Your Relationship Ends. San Luis Obispo, CA: Impact.
Halpern, Howard (2004). How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When—and Why—Love Doesn’t Work.
New York: Bantam.
Hayes, Christopher, D. Anderson. & M. Blau (1993).
Our Turn: The Good News About Women and Divorce. New York: Pocket Books.
Note: Aimed at women over 40 who are going through divorce; how divorce can be a catalyst for self-discovery,
change and growth
Swallow, Wendy (2001). Breaking Apart: A Memoir of Divorce. New York: Hyperion.
Trafford, Abigail (1992). Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised edition. New York: HarperCollins.
Wolf, Anthony (1998). Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce.
New York: Noonday Press.
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Domestic violence
Ackerman, Robert (1995). Before It's Too Late: Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships.
Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications Inc.
Brothers, Barbara Jo (2001). The Abuse of Men: Trauma Begets Trauma.New York: Haworth Press
Cook, Philip W. (1997) Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence. Greenwood Publishing Group Inc.
Enns, Greg, & J. Black (1997). It's Not Okay Anymore: Your Personal Guide to Ending Abuse, Taking Charge, and Loving Yourself.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Evans, Patricia (1992). The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Holbrook, MA: Adams Publishing.
Kirshenbaum, Mira (1996). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out
of Your Relationship. New York: NAL-Dutton.
Web Site
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Eating disorders
Bulik, Cynthia, & N. Taylor (2005). Runaway Eating: The 8 Point Plan to Conquer Adult Food and Weight Obsessions. Rodale Press.
Lock, James, & D. le Grange (2005). Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder. New York: Guilford Press.
Mellin, Laurel (1997). The Solution: 6 Winning Ways to Permanent Weight Loss. New York: HarperCollins.
Note: For people who have trouble controlling their food cravings
Roth, Geneen (1991). When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship between Eating and Intimacy.New York: NAL-Dutton.
Roth, Geneen (1982). Feeding the Hungry Heart. Indianapolis, IN: Bobbs-Merrill.
Zerbe, Kathryn (1993). The Body Betrayed: A Deeper Understanding of Women, Eating Disorders, and Treatment.
Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press.
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Faculty and tenure issues
Boice, Robert (1992). The New Faculty Member. San Francisco: Jossey Bass.
Boice, Robert (1990). Professors as Writers. Stillwater, OK: New Forums.
Caplan, Paula J. (1995). Lifting a Ton of Feathers: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving in the Academic World.
Toronto: University of Toronto Press.
Coiner, Constance, & D. George, editors (1998). The Family Track: Keeping Your Faculties While you Mentor, Nurture, Teach, and Serve.
Chicago: University of Illinois Press.
Dews, C. L. Barney & C. Law, editors (1995). This Fine Place So Far From Home: Voices of Academics from the Working Class.
Philadelphia: Temple University Press.
Fox, Mary Frank, ed. (1985). Scholarly Writing and Publishing: Issues, Problems, and Solutions. Boulder, CO: Westview Press.
Reardon, Kathleen K. (2005). It’s all politics: Winning in a world where hard work and
talent aren’t enough.
New York: Currency Doubleday.
Snyder, Don J. (1998). The Cliff Walk: A Job Lost and a Life Found. New York: Little Brown & Co.
Note: An English Professor is denied tenure and re-builds his life
Tierney, W. & E. Bensimon (1996). Promotion and Tenure: Community and Socialization in Academe. Albany, New York: SUNY Press.
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Gay and lesbian issues
Bass, Ellen & K. Kaufman (1996). Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies.
New York: Harper Perennial.
Bernstein, Robert A. (1998). Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together. New York: Harcourt Brace.
Note: Written by a P-FLAG parent - Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians
Fairchild, Betty & Hayward, N. (1998). Now That You Know: What Every Parent Should Know About Homosexuality.
New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich.
Johnson, Bret K. (1998). Coming Out Every Day: A Gay, Bisexual and Questioning Man's Guide. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Kaufman, Gershen, & Raphail, L. (1996). Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives. New York: Doubleday.
Larkin, Joan, ed. (1999). A Woman Like That: Lesbian & Bi-sexual Writers Tell Their Coming-Out Stories. New York: HarperCollins.
Note: Anthology of coming-out stories from the 1950’s to the present
McDaniel, Judith (1995). The Lesbian Couples' Guide. New York: Harper Perennial.
Note: Examines issues such as setting boundaries, power, parenting, opening the closet doors, etc.
Merla, Patrick, ed. (1997). Boys Like Us: Gay Writers Tell Their Coming-Out Stories. New York: Avon Books.
Note: Anthology of coming-out stories from the 1950’s to the present
Marcus, Eric (1993). Is It a Choice? San Francisco: Harper San Francisco.
Note: Honest and compassionate answers to 300 of the most frequently asked questions about gays and lesbians
Web Site
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Grief and loss
Colgove, M., Bloomfield, H. & McWilliams, P. (1993). How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Los Angeles: Prelude Press.
Fine, Carla (1999). No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One. New York: Main Street Books.
Goulding, Mary (1996). A Time to Say Good-Bye: Moving Beyond Loss. Watsonville, CA: Papier-Mache Press.
Note: For widows and widowers
Grollman, Earl (1989). Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. Boston: Beacon Press.
Note: For parents, to help their children deal with death
Greenspan, Miriam (2003). Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair.
Boston: Shambhala Publications, Inc.
Ilse, Sherokee (2002). Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. Maple Plain, MN: Wintergreen Press.
Larson, Dale G. (1993). The Helper’s Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness.
Champaign, IL: Research Press.
Rando, Therese (1988). How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. New York: Bantam.
Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff (1991). The Bereaved Parent. New York: Penguin Books, 1987.
Staudacher, Carol. Men and Grief. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Tatelbaum, Judy (1984). The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief. New York: Harper & Row.
Walter, Carolyn (2003). The Loss of a Life Partner: Narratives of the Bereaved.New York: Columbia University Press.
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Guilt
Engel, Lewis, & T. Ferguson (1990). Imaginary Crimes: Why We Punish Ourselves and How to Stop. Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
Illness/chronic illness
Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1990). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. New York: Dell.
Klein, Robert, & Landau, M. (1992). Healing the Body Betrayed: A Self-Paced, Self Help Guide to Regaining Psychological Control of Your Chronic Illness.
Minnetonka, MN: Chronimed.
Selak, Joy H. and Overman, S. (2005). You Don’t Look Sick: Living Well With Invisible Chronic Illness.
Binghamton, New York: Haworth Press.
Topf, Linda, & Bennett, H. Z. (1995). You are not Your Illness: Seven Principles for Meeting the Challenge of Illness.
Edgartown, MA: S & S Publishers.
Wells, Susan Milstrey (2000). A Delicate Balance: Living Successfully with Chronic Illness. New York: Perseus.
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Marriage and relationships
Bader, Ellyn, & Pearson, P. (1988). In Quest of the Mythical Mate. New York: Brunner-Mazel.
Note: Describes the developmental stages of marriage
Bader, Ellyn, & Pearson, P. (2001). Tell Me No Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner—and Yourself—in the 4 Stages of Marriage.
New York: St. Martin’s Press.
Evans, Patricia (1992). The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Holbrook, MA: Adams Publishing.
Gottman, John (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. New York: Simon & Schuster.
Gottman, John (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown Publishers.
Hendrix, Harville (1988). Getting the Love You Want. New York: Henry Holt.
Note: How and why we choose our partners, and how to heal relationship conflict
Halpern, Howard (1995). Finally Getting It Right: From Addictive/Obsessive Relationships to Healthy Ones. New York: Bantam.
Kirschenbaum, Mira (1997). Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step by Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in
or Get Out of Your Relationship. New York: Plume.
Lederer, W.J. and Jackson, D.D. (1968). The Mirages of Marriage. New York: W.W. Norton.
Paleg, Kim, &. McKay, M. (2001). When Anger Hurts Your Relationship. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Real, Terrence (2002). How Can I Get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women. New York: Fireside.
Spring, Janis Abrahms (1996). After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has Been Unfaithful. New York: HarperPerennial.
Weiner Davis, Michelle (2003). The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido.
New York: Simon & Schuster.
Wile, Daniel (1988). After the Honeymoon. New York: Wiley.
Note: An excellent book on how to improve communication in intimate relationships
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Menopause
Barbach, Lonnie (1995). The Pause: A Positive Approach to Menopause. New York: Penguin Books.
Boston Women's Health Book Collective (1984). The New Our Bodies Ourselves. New York: Simon & Schuster.
Doress, Paula, & Siegal, D. (1987). Ourselves, Growing Older.New York: Simon & Schuster.
Greenwood, Sadja (1992). Menopause Naturally. Volcano, CA: Volcano Press.
Greer, Germaine (1992). The Change. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.
Love, Susan (1997). Dr. Susan Love's Hormone Book: Making Informed Choices About Menopause. New York: Random House.
O'Hanlan, Katherine (1992). Natural Menopause. New York: Addison Wesley.
Sheehy, Gail (1992). Silent Passage: Menopause. New York: Random House.
Wolfe, Honora Lee (1990). Second Spring: A Guide to Healthy Menopause through Traditional Chinese Medicine.
Boulder, CO: Blue Poppy Press.
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Mid-life issues
Baar, Karen (2004). For My Next Act. . .:Women Scripting Life After 50. Rodale Press.
Brehony, Kathleen (1996). Awakening at Midlife. New York: Riverhead Books.
Gerzon, Mark (1992). Listening to Midlife.Boston: Shambhala.
Marston, Stephanie (2001). If Not Now When: Reclaiming Ourselves at Midlife. New York: Warner Books.
Schellenberger, Sue (2004). Breaking Point: How Female Midlife Crisis is Transforming Today’s Women. New York: Henry Holt.
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Multi-racial Issues
Funderburg, Lise (1994). Black, white, other. William Morrow and Company
Jones, Lisa (1994). Bulletproof diva. New York: Doubleday
Russell, K., Wilson, M. and Hall, R. (1992). The color complex. Harcourt Brace Jovanovich
McBride, James (1996). The color of water. G.P. Putnam’s Sons
O’Hearn, Claudine Chaiwei (1998). Half & half. New York: Random House
Root, Maria (ed.) (1996). The multiracial experience. SAGE Publications
Root, Maria (ed.) (1992). Racially mixed people in America. SAGE Publications
Kaeser, Gigi (1997). Of many colors: Portraits of multiracial families.
Boston: University of Massachusetts Press.
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Obsessive-compulsive disorder
Baer, Lee (1991). Getting Control: Overcoming Your Obsessions and Compulsions. New York: Little Brown.
Dumont, Raeann (1996). The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders.
New York: W. W. Norton.
Rapaport, Judith (1989). The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing: The Experience and Treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
New York: E. P. Dutton.
Schwartz, Jeffrey M. (1996). Brain Lock: Free Yourself From Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior. New York: Harper Perennial.
Steketee, Fail, & White, K. (1990). When Once is Not Enough: Help for Obsessive Compulsives. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
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Parenting young children
Cohen, Lawrence J. (2001). Playful Parenting. New York: Ballantine Books.
Dinkmeyer, Don, & McKay, G. (1998). The Parent’s Handbook: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP).
Minnesota: American Guidance Services, Inc.
Faber, Adele, & Mazlish, E. (1980). How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk. New York: Avon.
Faber, Adele, & Mazlish, E. (1987). Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: MacMillan.
Gottman, John (1998). Raising an emotionally intelligent child.
Seattle: Random House.
Phelan, Thomas (1995). 1-2-3- Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2 to 12. Illinois: Child Management, Inc.
Seligman, Martin (1996). The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and
Build Lifelong Resilience. New York: HarperCollins.
Severe, Sal (2003). How to behave so your children will too!
Tempe, AZ: Penguin Books.
Shure, Myrna (1994). Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your Young Child to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others.
New York: Pocket Books.
Siegel, Daniel J., & Hartzell, M. (2003). Parenting From the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise
Children Who Thrive. New York: Tarcher/Penguin.
Turecki, Stanley, & Tonner, L. (2000). The Difficult Child: Expanded and Revised Edition. New York: Bantam Books.
Note: Practical advice for parents of hard-to-raise children
Wolf, Anthony (1995). It's Not Fair: Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night. New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux.
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Helping your child with friendships
Cooper, Scott (2000). Sticks and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with Teasing, Conflict, and Other Hard Times.
New York: Times Books/Random House.
Posey, Kate Cohen (1995). How to Handle Bullies, Teasers, and Other Meanies: A Book that Takes the Nuisance out of Name Calling and
other Nonsense. Highland City, FL: Rainbow Books.
Note: Older children can read this on their own; younger children will need an adult to go through it with them
Thompson, Michael, Grace, C. & Cohen, L. J. (2001). Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children.
New York: Ballantine Books.
Thompson, Michael (2002). Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems. New York: Ballantine Books.
Parenting adolescents
Bates, Louise (1988). Your Ten- to Fourteen-Year-Old. A Dell Trade Paperback
Bluestein, Jane (1993). Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line. Health Communications, Inc.
Coburn, Karen Levin, & Treeger, M. L. (2003). Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years, 4th edition.
New York: Harper Perennial.
Dinkmeyer, Don, & McKay, G. (1998). Parenting Teenagers: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Minnesota: American
Guidance Services, Inc.
Fleming, Don (1989). How to Stop Battling with Your Teenager: A Practical guide to Solving Everyday Problems. Fireside
Kindlon, Dan (2000). Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional lives of boys. New York: Ballantine Books.
Giannetti, Charlene & Sagarese, Margaret (1997). The Roller Coaster Years. New York: Broadway Books.
Giannetti, Charlene & Sagarese, Margaret (1999). Parenting 911: How to Safeguard and Rescue Your 10 to 15 Year-Old from Substance
Abuse, Sexual Encounters...and Other risky Situations. New York: Broadway Books
Gravelle, Karen & Gravelle, Jennifer (1996). The Period Book: Everything You Don't Want to Ask (But Need to Know). Walker & Co
Harris, Robert H. (1996). It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health. Candlewick Press
Jukes, Mavis (1996). It's a Girl thing: How to Stay Healthy, Safe, and in Charge. Knopf
Kindlon, Daniel J. (2000). Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. Ballantine Books
Kutner, Lawrence (1997) Making Sense of Your Teenager. William Morrow & Co. Inc.
Murphy, Timothy, & Oberlin, L. (2001). The Angry Child: Regaining Control When Your Child is Out of Control. New York:
Three Rivers Press.
Pipher, Mary (1998). Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls..
New York: Ballantine Books.
Riera, Michael (1995). Uncommon Sense for Parents of Teens.Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts.
Riera, Michael (2003). Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really
Saying. Cambridge, MA: Perseus Publishing.
Wiseman, Rosalind (2002). Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities
of Adolescence. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Wolf, Anthony (2002). Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parents' Guide to the New Teenager.
New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux.
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Perfectionism
Hendlin, Steven (1992). When Good Enough is Never Enough: Escaping the Perfection Trap. New York: Jeremy Tarcher.
Mallinger, Allan, & DeWyze, J. (1992). Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control. New York: Clarkson Potter.
Elliott, Miriam, & Meltsner, S. (1991). The Perfectionist Predicament: How to Stop Driving Yourself and Others Crazy.
New York: William Morrow.
Personal growth
Brenner, Helene & Letich, L. (2003). I Know I’m in There Somewhere: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Her Inner Voice and
Living a Life of Authenticity. New York: Gotham Books.
Segal, Jeanne (1997). Raising Your Emotional Intelligence: A Hands-On Program for Harnessing the Power of Your Instincts and Emotions.
New York: Henry Holt.
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Phobias
Brown, Duane (1996). Flying without Fear. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Dumont, Raeann (1996). The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders.
New York: W.W. Norton.
Home Study Program
Wilson, R. Reid. Achieving Comfortable Flight: Taking the Anxiety Out of Airline Travel. Pathway Systems. 800-394-2292. www.anxieties.com.
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Procrastination
Burka, Jane, & Yuen, L. (1983). Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.
Burns, David (1989). The Feeling Good Handbook.
New York: Plume.
Note: Contains exercises to deal with procrastination
Fiore, Neil (1989). The Now Habit. Los Angeles: Jeremy Tarcher.
Roberts, Susan M. (1995). Living Without Procrastination: How to Stop Postponing Your Life. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
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Rape
Adams, Caren, & Fay, J. (1989). Free of the Shadows: Recovering from Sexual Violence. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Ledray, Linda (1994). Recovering from Rape. New York: Henry Holt.
Raine, Nancy Venable (1998). After Silence. New York: Crown.
Note: A first-person account of surviving and recovering from rape
Warshaw, Robin (1994). I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and
Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape. New York: Harper Collins.
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Schizophrenia
Mueser, Kim, & Gingerich, S. (1994). Coping with Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Torrey, E. Fuller (1995). Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Consumers, and
Providers, 4th edition. New York: Harper & Row.
Self-esteem
McKay, Matthew, & Fanning, P. (1987). Self-Esteem. Oakland CA: New Harbinger.
McKay, Matthew, et al. (1999). The Self Esteem Companion: Simple Exercises to Help You Challenge Your Inner Critic and Celebrate Your
Personal Strengths. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Sorensen, Marylyn (1998). Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem. Sherwood, OR: Wolf.
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Sexuality/sexual issues in relationships
Renshaw, Domeena (1995). Seven Weeks to Better Sex. New York: Random House.
Love, Pat, & Robinson, J. (1995). Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking. New York: NAL-Dutton.
Weiner Davis, Michelle (2003). The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. New York: Simon &
amp; Schuster.
Zilbergeld, Bernie (1992). The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure. New York: Bantam.
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Sexual abuse: adults abused as children
Bass, Ellen, & Davis, L. (1994). The Courage to Heal–3rd edition–Revised and
Expanded: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. New York: Harper & Row.
Gil, Eliana (1984). Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children. New York: Dell.
Hunter, Mic (1991). Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse. New York: Fawcett.
Lew, Mike (1990). Victims No Longer: Men Recovering From Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse. New York: HarperCollins.
Sexual addiction
Carnes, Patrick (1983). Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis, MN: Compcare.
Carnes, Patrick (1991). Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction. New York: Bantam.
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Sexual harassment
Conley, Frances (1998). Walking Out on the Boys. New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux.
Note: First person account of a doctor who filed a sexual harassment lawsuit against her colleagues
Morris, Celia (1994). Bearing Witness. Boston: Little Brown.
Web Site
Social anxiety and shyness
Berent, Jonathan (1993). Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties. New York: Fireside Books.
Johnson, David W. (2003). Reaching Out: Interpersonal Effectiveness and Self Actualization, 8th edition, Boston: Allyn & Bacon.
Markway, Barbara, et al. (1992). Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety and Social Phobia. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Note: A practical workbook with techniques for assessing your fears and working on them
Zimbardo, Philip (1987). Shyness: What It Is and What to Do About It. Reading, MA: Addison Wesley.
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Spiritual issues/spiritual confusion
Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1994). Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. New York: Hyperion.
Note: How to use mindfulness to attain physical and mental health
Nhat Hanh Thich (1991). Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life. New York: Bantam.
Note: An explanation of Zen Buddhist techniques of meditation and awareness
Peck, Scott (1978). The Road Less Traveled. New York: Simon & Schuster.
Schwartz, Tony (1995). What Really Matters: Searching for Wisdom in America. New York: Bantam.
Note: A New York Times journalist's conversations with leading psychologists, philosophers, physicians, and scientists
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Stepfamilies
Newman, Margaret (1994). Stepfamily Realities: How to Overcome Difficulties and Have a Happy Family. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Note: A practical guide to adjusting to all aspects of living in a stepfamily
Wolf, Anthony (1998). Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce.
New York: Noonday Press.
Visher, Emily, & Visher, J. (1991). How to Win As a Stepfamily. New York, Brunner-Routledge.
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Stress Reduction
Borysenko, Joan (1987). Minding the Body, Mending the Mind. New York: Addison Wesley.
Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1990). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. New York: Dell.
Note: Based on the principles of mindfulness and breathing, with particular emphasis on managing chronic pain
Luskin, Frederic, & Pelletier, K. (2005). Stress Free For Good: 10 Scientifically Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness.
New York: HarperCollins.
O'Hara, Valerie (1996). Five Weeks to Healing Stress: The Wellness Option. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Note: A practical workbook, with charts for recording progress
Sapolsky, Robert (1994). Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers. New York: W. H. Freeman.
Note: An explanation of how stress affects the body and mind; based on scientific research
Web Site
Stress Management
The Relaxation Page
Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Levine, Peter (1997). Waking the Tiger. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books.
Matsakis, Aphrodite (1992). I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Naparstek, Belleruth (2004). Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal. New York: Random House.
Rothschild, Babette (2000). The Body Remembers. New York: W. W. Norton.
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Work issues/ vocational stress
(See also Faculty and Tenure Issues)
Bramson, Robert (1984). Coping with Difficult People. New York: Ballantine.
Bridges, William (1991). Managing Transitions. New York: Addison Wesley.
Fisher, Roger (1981). Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. New York: Penguin.
O'Hara, Valerie (1995). Wellness at Work: Building Resilience to Job Stress. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Note: A blueprint for taking charge of your work life: identifying and managing stress, improving communications, and developing
support networks; includes a chapter that deals with work-stress issues that affect women
Reardon, Kathleen K. (2005). It’s all politics: Winning in a world where hard work and
talent aren’t enough. New York: Currency Doubleday.
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Work issues/changing careers
Jansen, Julie (2003). I Don’t Know What I Want, But I Know It’s Not This: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding Gratifying Work.
New York: Penguin Books.
Ryan, Robin (2002). What to Do with the Rest of Your Life: America’s Top Career Coach Shows You How to Find or Create the Job
You’ll Love. New York: Fireside.
Pollan, Stephen M. (2004). Second Acts: Creating the Life Your Really Want, Building the Career You Truly Desire. New York: HarperCollins.
Worry
Hallowell, Edward M. (1997). Worry: Hope and Help for a Common Condition. New York: Ballantine.
Hazlett-Stevens, Holly (2005). Women Who Worry Too Much: How to Stop Worry and Anxiety from Ruining Relationships, Work, and Fun.
Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
Leahy, Robert L (2005). The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry From Stopping You. New York: Harmony Books/Random House.
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Writer’s Block
Boice, Robert (1990). Professors as Writers. New Forums.
Note: A well researched, balanced and practical guide focused on improving productivity in academia, though it applies to
all writers
Boice, Robert (1990). The New Faculty Member.Jossey-Bass.
Note: Addresses writing and a number of other issues for junior faculty
Boice, Robert (1994). How Writers Journey to Comfort and Fluency.Praeger.
Note: A comprehensive description of his knowledge and advice for writers of all types
Burka, J and Yuen, L (1983). Procrastination. Addison-Wesley.
Bolker, Joan (1998). Writing Your Dissertation in Fifteen Minutes a Day. Owl Books.
Burns, David (1992). Feeling Good. Avon.
Note: Helpful techniques from cognitive therapy to address problems with perfectionism, negative self-talk, depression,
anxiety and other issues
Cameron, Julia (1998). The Artist's Way. Putnam.
Note: The daily writing exercise prescribed in this book is potentially useful to all blocked writers
Elbow, Peter (1973). Writing Without Teachers. Oxford University Press.
Goldberg, Natalie(1988). Writing Down the Bones. Shambala.
Goldberg, Natalie (1990). Wild Mind. Bantam.
Note: These two similar books offer numerous tips and exercises to promote the flow of writing; good for people who
struggle with early over-editing and excessive self-criticism
Kirsch, Gesa. (1993). Women Writing the Academy. Southern Illinois University Press.
Note: Issues and challenges for women academic writers
Lamott, Ann (1994). Bird by Bird. Pantheon.
Note: A humane and humorous approach to the emotional challenges of being a writer
Moxley and Lenker (1995). The Politics and Process of Scholarship. Greenwood Press.
Note: Essays on a number of issues related to writing and publishing in academia
Nelson, Victoria (1993). On Writer's Block. Houghton-Mifflin.
Olsen, Tillie (1979). Silences. Dell.
Note: An author's account of the experience of being unable to write for years due to other responsibilities
Rico, Gabrielle (1983). Writing the Natural Way. Tarcher.
Rose, Mike (1985). When a Writer Can't Write. Guilford.
Sternberg, David (1981). How to Complete and Survive a Doctoral Dissertation. St. Martin's.
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